What should we do when people to whom we have given our trust betray that trust?
Should we be angry and refuse to trust those people again?
What if our car breaks down, causing us great frustration and inconvenience? Do we not take the proper steps to fix it so we can drive it again? If we can’t get it fixed…..do we never drive a car again because it might break down? Will our anger from that instance of failure continue to cause us frustration by keeping us from wanting to have another car? Will that anger make us feel any better as we walk everywhere?
We may be justified in not trusting a car again, but does that really solve the issue at hand or just make us feel more justified in our anger?
Could it be possible that the person who let us down is really a good person, but made a mistake unintentionally? If so, wouldn’t we be hurting ourselves if we refused to trust that someone again? After all, we must have thought they were good people before they made a mistake, so isn’t there a chance that they are still a good person?
It would seem that the best way to solve an issue, would be to first let the anger and disappointment of that situation go….
We need to ask ourselves.……is the reason we are having a difficult time forgiving someone the result of not being able to come to terms with the issue at hand? It seems that if we are able to free ourselves of these negative emotions and actually solve the situation, then it really wouldn’t be that hard to forgive the person or persons involved….
If we refuse to forgive and never trust a person again, are we possibly robbing ourselves of real growth? Could it be that the solution to solving a particular issue lies with the very person we refuse to forgive?
If you made a mistake, would you want your friends to give up on you?
Seems that is what forgiveness is all about….
God forgives you doesn’t he?