More friends = less enemies


“Am I not destroying my enemies by making friends with them?” ~ Abraham Lincoln¬†

We’ve all got enemies in the world don’t we? Why? Can you think of any reasons why people would choose to be your enemy? You’re basically a good person, right?

Let’s face it, no matter how hard we try, there are going to be people who just don’t like us. Some don’t think anything of it…they just don’t like us. Others…well, others tend to take their dislike to deeper levels where their dislike turns to hate. They become consumed with the very idea that they hate us.

There is no way that everyone in a small town is going to agree on everything – especially not in a small town, so why waste time and energy trying to get everyone to agree? Why not spend our time accepting everyone for who they are, acknowledging that we have different ways of looking at the same things….then find ways in which we can make things work?

Is it any wonder why God told the world to love those who hate us? Think about it….could you hate someone you love? Even if you mildly like someone and accept them in your life, isn’t it hard to do things that bring them harm?

If you love your enemies…it doesn’t change them, doesn’t magically turn them into people easier for you to like. In fact, most times, they won’t even know that you love them…unless of course you actually tell them.

There is an old Chinese proverb that says: ¬†if the wind bothers you…learn to like the wind.

When we choose to hate our enemies…everything they do or say seems to be wrong to us. When we love someone, we are more likely to listen to what they have to say and we allow ourselves to get close enough to see that they really aren’t as bad as we think they are.